Father-In-Law wants control over our future children's last names?

My fiance and his father do not have the same last name. They have not always had the best relationship, but they've gotten a lot closer these last few years. I have never gotten along with my fiance's father, because he's a jerk. His attitude is "my way, or the highway". He's recently told my fiance and I that he wants our future children to have his last name, and not my fiance's. He even went so far as to say that if we didn't give them his last name, we would be cut out of his will (our kids too). My fiance doesn't seem to care either way, but I feel like since he's spent all his life as a "Jones", then that makes him a Jones now. I like my fiance's last name much more than his fathers, and it's going to be my name too. If it means this much to him, he should have changed his son's name years ago, as his mother was ok with it. It would be one thing if he'd ask nicely, but he's threatening us to get his way, so I told my fiance no. Am I being unreasonable? What would you guys do?

Father-In-Law wants control over our future children's last names?
. It's YOUR family. Do it YOUR way .. and your fiance's.


Do NOT be intimadated by Daddy. He'll push you around forever if you give in.
Reply:you are being perfectly reasonable. does your fiance not care if they carry his name?? so they will have your father in law's name but not yours?? that is asking too much, maybe he shouldn't have let his son out of his life and raised him. and now you wouldn't be having that problem. your future kids should have your fiance's last name, which will be your last name as well.
Reply:go with your fiance last name due when something happend to him you can file for your ssi payment in his name no matter what pleasw dont put your kid in his father name cause it s going to be alot of confusion with the state.
Reply:I think you should decide between you and your fiance and if his father wants to be a jerk, there is not a lot you can do about it. There is no point calling them something you don't want to in case you get something in a will, because ultimately that's what it comes down to now that the threat has been made in that way. I would rather have a happy relationship and kids/family than some money or material things in a will. You have to decide what is more important to you.
Reply:well I personally would tell the old man to shove his will up his *** money is not that important to me neither are objects like his house etc.





But if you are concerned about being cut out of the will cause he is super wealthy or want his home how about a compromise like hyphenate it for example if you fiance last name is williams and his fathers is jones and you had a Little boy you could name him say..... Michael Jones-Williams or a girl could be Victoria Jones-Williams get what I am trying to say maybe that would make everyone happy good luck and try to be civil with him it will be your future kids grandpa you know even if he is a jerk realize when you visit you are not living there just have to be civil for a while.